BF wants me have more friends

Posted by machree (143 days ago)

For a while, my BF always suggests me to meet more people and make friends. He being very clear to me that he doesn't want me feel lonely and lean on him all the time (actually I didn't tie him up)

I am not a social girl and enjoy be alone...but there's another reason, it's so difficult to find a real friend in Shanghai, either boy or girl. Is there any channel that I can meet some nice people?

Appreciate all your suggestions.

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by Little Carmen (143 days ago)

Much as you might "think" you dont tie him down, I am sure the whole loner routine doesnt work wonders for making him not feel guilty about going out with his mates without you.

You dont have to be "social" but you could do with having a few hobbies or extracuricular activities that get you out there without your boyfriend. Take up a sport or something, do they have a group of ultimate frisbee people out there? I dunno...there has to be something more than just asking where you can find friends...I mean, you can always be the instigator of that sort of search by organising your own get together through AX...I have done that many times in the past and have made some wikked lifelong friends through the many gatherings.

Your bf suggesting you meet more people is his diplomatic way of saying he would like you to have other friends than just him. Nothing can be more guilt inducing in a relationship than thinking about someone waiting for you at home while you are out having a totally harmless night out with your mates...

(I am based in Hong Kong)

Posted by machree (143 days ago)

Thanks Little Carmen...

Understand I shall be more activate but just not put on any action...

Will try

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by handcream (137 days ago)

Hi Machree,
are you interested in playing pool with me and another gal this week... if so you can msg me. but I have to warn you my pool skill sucks and we just play for fun and kill some time.

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by machree (80 days ago)

Hey Handcream,

I am so so sorry for the late reply....

Still have chance to play water together?

(I am based in Shanghai)

Posted by woods99 (80 days ago)

Could be the beginning of the end for the relationship. "Finding other friends" can be code for "it's not you, dear, it's me".

(I am based in Hong Kong)